G and I had our first visit to the gym on Monday. We both walked for 30 minutes at a brisk pace and then did some resistance training on our arms. We went again yesterday and decided just to do cardio so we did some more walking. G walked for about 30 min, but had to stop because he started to hurt.
My first goal was 30 min, but one I got there I saw that I was close to burning 200 calories so that became my new goal. I didn't stop there though. Once I got there I decided I could make it to 3 miles and it just went on from there until I had walked for an hour traveling a distance of 3.2 miles and burning over 300 calories. What I don't get is if I was walking at a pace of 2.6 mph how did I walk over 3 miles when technically it should only have been 2.6?
Not long after I started my legs where burning, but that went away after a while. By the time I made it to an hour I really felt like I had accomplished something. It was a really good feeling. Although after G stopped he just stood there while I kept walking. We did talk some, but I was walking on an incline and was getting winded so it was kinda weird that he was just standing there.
I'm not sure if we are going today or not. G is pretty sore today so he doesn't want to walk. The only thing on me that is really sore is the instep on my right foot. After I walked the muscle just kept feeling like it was going to cramp. It got pretty painful at one point. The only thing I can figure is that I'm not used to wearing shoes with arch support like I do when I'm at the gym. Who knows. I hope my body gets used to whatever is making me hurt so it will stop.
As far as my mother goes we are still kinda on the outs. It just seems like everytime I am around her she does something to either hurt or insult me. I don't know if she is doing it on purpose or if she just doesn't realize she is doing it. One of these days I'm just going to have to get up the nerve to say something to her. It's just hard to do.
And the PrimaDonna co-worker struck again today. We all know about the a/c tirades here(which have now moved on to 2 a/c units instead of just the one) but she hasn't stopped there. Apparently she complained about the heat from the door beside her desk so our boss (who caters to her) has decreed that no one is to use that door during business hours. So here is an illustration of how we have to do things now (image at bottom of page). If I want to go to my truck for any reason the red line is how I used to go and the blue line is how I have to go now.
Does this make any sense at all? Not opening the door has not made one bit of difference to the temperature. On the other hand, me running my heater did :) I was only running it to stay warm mostly, and a little out of spite I have to admit. It has a thermostat so it runs off and on, but after a while the warm air does start to fill up my office and seep into her room. She hasn't had the nerve to complain about it. To me anyway.
Onto body news now. I have started to get cranky, but that is because I have had varying degrees of spotting for a few weeks now. Accompanying that has been cramps and dull pain in my ovaries. I am tired of hurting. My body is so screwy right now. I just wish it would either work right or do nothing. I don't like this in between stuff.
Well it's 3 o'clock so I'm going to walk all the way around the building, get in my truck, and go home.
Check. Done. As soon as G and I walked in the door we were greeted by a very friendly man lifting weights. He was kind enough to offer us some chairs to sit in and chatted us up about the gym while we were waiting for the owner. As we were waiting we also had a chance to meet the aerobics instructor. I was a little surprised to be honest. Now don't take what I'm going to say the wrong way because I certainly don't judge people based on the way they look. If I did I probably wouldn't like myself very much, but I did not expect the aerobics instructor to have a spare tire or two around her middle and missing half her teeth.
Maybe I'm exaggerating a little about the teeth. I'm just sayin. It was not what I expected. I'm sure she is a great instructor or she wouldn't be working there or actually have people attend her class. I guess that's what you get in a small town gym. Again, nothing against small towns, I grew up in one and I live in one now and love it. I'm just sayin.
We talked to the owner for a while and he is pretty nice. He gave us suggestions on our workout sessions. He suggested starting with at least 20 minutes of cardio then alternating days of pushing and pulling as he called it. One day he will do his arms and upper body and any "pulling" exercises. The next workout he will do his back and core exercises and on the next he will work his legs. He also suggested going no more than 3 times a week to start so we don't burn ourselves out.
I am actually excited to start this journey. I think this is really going to be a step in the right direction for me.
Ok, so my appointment was a little disappointing, but atleast I officially have a new Dr now.
All they did today was my annual exam. After the exam I had a little meeting with him in his office. He told me that he wants to start monitoring me on my next cycle, but in the meantime I have to start a strict diet regimen. He said I need to lose atleast a pound a week until I've lost atleast 20 lbs. Does anyone have any suggestions on this?
I think G and I are going to check out a gym in our town today and see what it's like. It is only about $50 a month for the 2 of us. That's cheaper than the gyms in the town we work in. Once you sign up for your membership they issue you a scan card so you have access 24 hrs. The manager is only there twice a week to let you check out the facility so we have to catch him on one of those days. Today happens to be one of those days so I am going to convince G to go with me. If I have to lose weight so does he.
Hopefully my debit card fraud will be taken care of soon. I had to file a police report yesterday in order for the bank to dispute the charges for me. I signed all the paperwork yesterday and the bank manager told me it should only take about a week for the money to be put back in my account. I would really like to have that $240 back.
So what are your suggestions on losing weight? I was doing really well when I started the low glycemic diet, but I realized I was only eating about 450-700 calories a day. I started adding some calories back in my diet and I gained back a few pounds so my weight loss so far is at about 8 pounds in 2 months. My goal right now is to get to 180 so that is another 15 lbs according to my scale and 18 by the Dr's scale. I don't want to make myself sick. I just want to have a healthy body that's ready for a baby.
I decided to call the New dr office yesterday and see what I needed to do about getting an appointment. I told her that I had been lightly spotting for 11 days. When she called back she said I need to come in the next day at 8:30 am. I was shocked. I have never gotten an appointment that fast. I was fully prepared to wait another few weeks to a month.
Unfortunately G will not be able to go with me. Things have been picking up at work and they just can't do without him this morning.
So I am supposed to get my annual exam today as well as a post-coital test. G wasn't too happy about having to get up at 3:30 this morning to BD, but it was taken care of. I will probably also have an ultrasound to see if there are any follicles.
I am super nervous and excited at the same time. I will let you know what happened when I get. I will also tell you about our trip to Hot Springs.
and it sucks. Over the past week I have had about $250 charged on my debit card by some anonymous jerk that wanted me to pay for his stuff.
It started with someone charging almost $60 on my iTunes account. I went to my bank and they told me I could cancel my card to keep anything else from being charged, but I couldn't dispute the charges until everything cleared.
Everything had cleared by Tuesday, but I had to pay my insurance with my debit card on Wednesday so I didn't want to cancel it just yet. When I went to make my payment I logged into my bank account just to make sure I had enough money in there and I saw a charge for about $170 for something called Maxx Shredders. I don't know what the heck that is, but I sure didn't buy it.
I went to my bank as soon as they opened this morning and got to watch them cut up my debit card. It felt like I was losing my best friend. After I said a silent prayer for the dearly departed I signed the paperwork for my new card arriving in approximately 2-4 weeks. I hope it comes soon because I am lost without that thing.
I think maybe what I might do in the future to help protect myself is just buy Visa gift cards to use for all my online purchases. That way no one gets my information. The only way I can think of that they got my info is from my iTunes account. I had my info stored on there so I could buy movies and such.
Atleast G and I have seperate bank accounts. Don't get the wrong idea and think we don't share our money because we do. I have my own bank account because I like to shop and G is afraid of me spending all his money, lol. Not really, but he tells me that since I earn the money I should get to spend the money. I do pay 2 of the credit cards and my life and health insurance every month. I also have a little bit every week going into my vacation savings account.
Once the new transaction posts to my account the bank will dispute the charges for me and see if we can get my money back. They are also going to see if the identity theft and fraud protection I have on my account will reimburse me if I don't get it back. The lady that helped me today wasn't sure if there was a minimum amount they would reimburse. I have been paying $5 a month for well over 5 years for that service so I hope they cover it.
I was hoping my trip to Hot Springs would be nice and relaxing this weekend. I guess this is really the best time to get away so I can get my mind off of everything.
or so my mother told me yesterday. I hope you are ready for a long story. We had a major blow out yesterday and as of right now we are not speaking. Since we live next door to each other and I usually see her every day, this is a big deal in my world. If she had just respected what I had to say then none of this would have happened. I am going to try and explain to you what happened and I hope to get your honest opinion on what YOU think I should do.
This whole this started with my brother. To give you a little background, he is 27, has ADHD, a drinking problem and I think a little bit of mental problems as well. I know he has to see a shrink once a month I think for the medication he takes. He doesn't even pay his own bills. My mother has been paying his bills and taking care of his bank account ever since he has had one. He has to call my mother to find out how much money he has. To me that is just sad. He also lost his job a few months ago. It was his own fault for talking back to a supervisor. He has not even looked for a job since then. That is the main root of the problem. That and apparently he is my mother's "Golden Child".
For the last several months (even before he lost his job, but got much worse after) he has been completely disrespectful to everyone in the family including my mother even though she refuses to see it or do anything about it. He yells at everyone all the time, cusses at them, and says completely inappropriate even to the kids. Once when he was staying at my mother's house he and my sister were left home with the kids. My sister is 32 and has a 6 yr old daughter. They live with my parents along with my 2 cousins who are 8 and 11.
My mother had to go out of town one day and asked me to bring the kids over to my house when I got home from work to keep my brother from harrassing them. When I got home he had them all locked out of the house and would not let them in for anything. It was hot outside. By the time Gary and I had finished feeding the horses he had let my niece go inside, but wouldn't let the other 2 go in. I was just about to take them over to my house when he came outside to tell them dinner was ready. I told him that I didn't think locking the kids out of the house was a good thing to do or even a nice thing especially since he let our niece go in. He told me to shut the F up, that it's none of my GD business and he doesn't give a shit what I think.
Not long after that there was another incident at my mother's house. Everyone was out for Mother's Day weekend I think. By this time he was staying at my other brother's house in Dallas, but both of them and my other brother's girlfriend were out visiting for the weekend. I don't remember all the particulars, but he started causing a scene and saying obscene things and harrassing my cousins. Well I felt that I needed to tell my mother what was going on hoping she would say something to him. When I told her all she said was that I need to quit telling her because she didn't want to hear it.
My cousins are already emotionally unstable because last August they were in a minor car accident with their mother and she was arrested for child endangerment. I don't remember exactly why except that what ever her circumstance was, high on drugs or something else, she shouldn't have been driving with kids in the car. She had some other charges against her already so she was going to have to do some prison time. That is how the kids ended up at my mother's house. By brother doesn't like them and he lets them know every chance he gets.
My mother telling me that she didn't want to hear about the problems my brother was causing was kind of it for me. My husband already didn't want to be around him and didn't want him anywhere near our house just because of the way he treated me. I also found out that one night shortly after that he started drinking (normal for him), but he drank so much that he started throwing up. The next morning when the kids got up for school they found him passed out on the bathroom floor with puke all over the bathroom. It was after that when he went to stay at my other brother's house.
Can you see why at this point I really just want to wash my hands of him until he straightens out? I really feel like he owes everyone in the family an apology, but I'm sure no one but my mother will hear one.
So now we are coming to the part about the argument. As I said, my brother has been out of work for a while. He won't have the money to pay his bills next month, but he hasn't even attempted to look for a job. They are coming out this weekend for the holiday and he asked my mother if there was anything he could do around the house for money. She said she would ask me if he could do some work around my house because I had let my sister clean my house for $10 hr when she needed money. I do love him, he is my brother so I was willing to give him a chance and let him do something to earn some money. When I mentioned it to G, he said absolutely not. I was kind of upset at first, but then I started thinking about it and he was right, but what is my mother going to say when I tell her no. (Just so you know I do thingsall the time I don't want to do just to please my mother so telling her no is a hard thing for me.) So G said I could blame him and tell her he doesn't want him at the house.
When I told my mother my decision she told me that if I wanted to do something I should do it anyway regardless of how G feels. I told her that I wasn't going to go against my husband so my brother could make a little money. I said that he had burned all his bridges with G and he didn't want him at our house. Again she told me that I should do what I want not what G wants, that "blood is thicker than water". I reminded her of some of the things he has done and her response was, "Well my brothers have done worse things than that." What she forgets, and I didn't think to remind her, is that my dad told her that her brothers could not come out to their house, he didn't want them there. So the only time they come out is when he is not home. So then I just told her that I will give him money if that's what he needs, but I wasn't going to let him over at my house. I also told her that he brought this on himself and it's his fault he doesn't have money and at this point I really don't have any sympathy for him. At this point she wouldn't talk to me so I told her that was my cue to leave.
My feelings are that when I got married my husband became my blood. He doesn't treat me bad or tell me that I can't do the things I want to do. So why would I go against his wishes and anger him for someone whoe doesn't even respect me?
What would you do in this situation? I am so upset by this I hope it doesn't ruin my mini vacation. I can't wait to get to Hot Springs and get away from this situation for a little while.
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